I think the media should not report the story until after the next of kin have been notified. In your situation, the coincidence of the car and neighborhood being the same as your daughter, would make me do the same thing. But think of it like this, a military member is killed and his wife heres about her husbands death on the radio. Or she has some one else call here and tell her they heard about her husbands death and they want to extend their condolences.